Do Not Make A Will; For A Married Man, Making a Will is a Dangerous Illusion; No Problems Solved Without Changing Names on Your Accounts and House

The Will Illusion. We have all heard the TV and radio ads that you need to make a will and should hire a computer, not an expensive lawyer, to make the will. I have advised married men that only making a will is just an illusion that lulls them into a dangerous complacency. It is worse when the husband wants to make a will without his wife’s participation.

Why Do a Will: Most married men who sign a will want to accomplish the following objectives: Make sure their property goes to their spouse and children; designate who will be the guardian of their children; make sure things go smoothly when they die; and protect the inheritance of their children. For the typical married man, none of these objectives are likely to be accomplished.

Ensure Property Goes to Spouse. Seventy percent of married men own their house, bank and brokerage accounts and household goods jointly with their wives. The number is higher for first time married men. These men also usually designate their wives as the sole beneficiary of their retirement accounts and life insurance policies. They then sign a will, thinking they have protected their wives and children. Most men die before their wives. When the man dies, survived by the wife, everything goes to their wives due to the fact that all of their property is owned jointly with their wives and the will has no affect on the beneficiary designations on their insurance or retirement accounts. There is no protection of his wife of against her creditors or her disability and estate taxes will be higher. This is because the title to property overrides any provision of the will. If the man named his parents as the beneficiaries on his insurance or retirement accounts and did not change the beneficiary designations when he got married, then these accounts go to his parents if they survive him or to a probate estate if they do not, and not directly to his wife. Beneficiary designations override the provisions of a will.

Protect His Children. Often, the married men I advise want to make sure that after taking care of their wives, their property goes to their children, and they want their will to say that. But, if the wife survives the husband, everything goes directly to her either by title or because the will says so. If the wife remarries, there is no protection for his children and all of man’s share of the property will go to the next husband and his children if the next husband survives his wife or one half to the next husband if there is a divorce. I have talked to many children who were unintentionally disinherited this way.

Guardians for His Children. Husband dies first, survived by wife. Wife is now the guardian of the children and wife now decides who will be the guardian of his children if she then dies. The husband’s will is irrelevant at this point. Also, if the children are minors or disabled and if the wife does not have a will, in most states, the court will appoint the guardian and supervise the finances of the children until they are 18, depending upon the legal age for children in their state.

Things Go Smoothly. Many people I have advised think that a will avoids probate. Not so; the will’s purpose is to direct the probate process. Instead, any property passing under a will must be probated. Probate is the state law process requiring that the will and a detailed list of assets are filed on the public record. Someday soon, your neighbor may be able to go on line and see to whom you left your property. There are notice and accounting requirements, which vary from state to state and in some states are quite onerous and expensive to comply with. Probating a will is like filing a lawsuit against yourself, with a notice for everyone who has a claim to join in the lawsuit without the need to hire an attorney or file their own case.

Solutions That Do Not Work. The solution is not to make sure the wife dies first. Even if husband and wife make identical wills, and the husband dies first, none of the above is really changed much because the wife has a will. Non married couples come out ahead if they do not own their property jointly because the non married man’s will determines who inherits his separately owned property. Some married couples go so far as to get rid of jointly owned property, thereby requiring a probate when the husband dies and then again when the wife dies. This makes the probate lawyers a lot of fees.

Solutions that Work. To accomplish the goals of the married man, he needs to set up a living trust and put the name of the trust on his accounts and real estate and name his trust as the death beneficiary of his insurance and retirement accounts. To have an estate plan which accomplishes your goals, call us for an appointment.